This is my mind space and that is your mind space. The thoughts I hold in my head are my responsibility and the only one they hurt, or benefit, is myself. The only person who can control, and clear, my mind space is myself.
I worry a lot and it doesn’t serve me well. My worries are my training wheels and I’ve never been able to take them off. Our problems and stressors make up who we are as much as our individual quirks and unique pasts. Why do we cling to our problems and let them create who we are? Is pain a crutch too easy to lean on that we can’t even consider letting go out of fear we will not be able to stand without them? If I stop worrying about something will that alone make it happen? Why is it so hard to let go and just be happy in the moment?
I’m ready to let it go. I’m ready to be happy. I want to take off my training wheels and I’m finally open to learning how to do it. The first step was learning to calm and clear my mind. Any time a negative thought, or any thought that I don’t want, sneaks into my head, I now mentally bat it to the side like I’ve reached the end of a line on an old typewriter. Ding! I let it go. I visualize that thought flying out of my head and enjoy the peace that replaces it. This works well in a quiet room by myself or in a state similar to meditation, but the next step is being able to put this into play during the chaos that makes up my daily life. Although I haven’t quite mastered that part of it, I’m better off for having put this practice into play. I’m able to enjoy a quiet mind more often and THAT is a win.
So once you leave the calm and serenity of your own physical space, the trick is to covet and protect your mind space in the same way. Something I can take with me that has a lot of power over my thoughts is music. Certain songs have the power to immediately change my thoughts. Sometimes I know exactly which song I need to hear and other times I surf my favorite radio stations, but either way music has the power to clear and change my mind space. Another thing that can propel me out of a moment quickly is a certain smell. I’ve started to learn more about Aromatherapy lately. I know now that it goes beyond that chance fleeting whiff of a cologne that reminds you of your high school boyfriend and being whisked away in your mind to those feelings
of teenage puppy love. Different smells elicit different memories and feelings. Some smells can actually have a strong effect on how we feel by tapping into the part of the brain responsible for regulating feelings, emotions, memory, learning, and physical drives. The result can be sedating, relaxing, stimulating, or euphoric in effect. A great place to learn more about Aromatherapy is Karma Healing Solutions.
I want to let go of my worries and start to move easier down this path toward being happy. “If you let go a little, you will have a little peace. If you let go a lot, you will have a lot of peace.” Ajahn Chah