A promise is your word that you will accomplish something. When you make a promise to yourself, it’s a promise that simply can’t be broken without serious consequence. So, that’s the thing about a promise to yourself, it’s a pretty serious undertaking. If I can’t keep a pact with myself, I am only accountable to me. No one to blame, nowhere to hide. So, I accept this obligation with great urgency. I did this to myself, pledged this oath all on my own. The punishment for failure is far too great for me to consider even straying from this path for a second.
I know a lot more about what doesn’t make me happy and who I am NOT than what does make me happy and who I AM. But that’s a start. I want to get to know myself better. Part of this journey is understanding who I am and where my happiness comes from. “The foolish man seeks happiness in the distance; the wise grows it under his feet.” ~James Openheim So have I been foolish? Have I been seeking happiness off somewhere else instead of seeing it and nurturing it right here where I am? Maybe.
Self honesty is an important part of inner balance and in turn, inner peace. How you honestly feel about yourself and how you truly feel about your values and your life will form your real opinion of yourself. See your true value and speak it in your own mind and in your own heart. Make it a habit to see the positive things about yourself and others will see them as well. We are usually our own worst enemy. “The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.” – William James
‘My Happy Promise’ is a promise I made to myself, and even on the days when I don’t feel at my peak, I hold myself to my highest expectations. I have seen people go to great lengths, both positive and negative, to gain the approval of others and I hold strong on my need to only gain the approval of myself. It is not through the eyes of other’s expectations and perspective that I choose to measure my happiness. Don’t get me wrong, I seek counsel from those whose truths and values are similar to my own, but even they know that I make the ultimate decisions. It is the best teachers in life that guide your hand but don’t solve the problem for you. And so I challenge myself yet again to get to know myself in a brutally honest way. I pledge to be mindful of my thoughts and responses like a research scientist. I will gather data and record my findings.
How well do you really know yourself? Do you truly acknowledge all the real things about you? Are you the best possible version of yourself or is something holding you back? If you can’t have this conversation quietly in your own mind, then you can’t move forward and truly find peace. How can you hold yourself to your own standards, understand your own values or visualize who you want to become if you can’t take the time to understand who you are today?