Your computer runs infinitely smoother after you empty your junk and clear your cache, or computer’s memory. Your computer knows that less “stuff” in the way means that more energy can be focused on the important task at hand. I always enjoy my desk more and feel more productive after I’ve cleaned off the surface of extra papers and “stuff” that I don’t need. When I follow through and complete the “clearing out” in whatever way it needs to be done, I’m always happy I did. It feels like a weight or a burden has been lifted and it brings me a bit of peace.
This same principle can be directly related to how we feel about the “stuff” in our lives. All too often we give up valuable space or “real estate” in our thoughts to the useless junk in our minds that doesn’t serve us and is in serious need of being cleared out. We tend to hold on to these thoughts and feelings for far too long. When we feel hurt or wronged it’s hard to let go of the negativity that attaches itself to a situation and gets under your skin. Be it from a simple, fleeting traffic incident or a deeply rooted issue, our thoughts about a situation or experience can occupy valuable space and keep us from living well and thinking freely and to our highest potential.
So how can we begin to live free of this burden?
The first step to letting go of negative feelings is to validate them. Take them out into the light, give them a chance to be heard. Allow them to speak their peace. Say it, write it, breathe through it, get it out, and let it be done. This process looks different for everyone. For some, it can be the validation from another person that can finally allow you to move forward to the next step. For others, it can be the act of writing it down or letting yourself think it through and giving that thought some time and focus. The key to this step is to recognize and authenticate the importance of that feeling and give it recognition. If it has occupied space in your thoughts and brought pain or any other significant feeling or emotion to you then it deserves your respect. Stop and accept your feeling and allow your spirit to confirm it’s existence before moving forward. The action of validation is an offering of respect and will lead you to the next step in your journey.
The next step, and the most important part, is forgiveness. Forgive the feeling you have validated or the person whom has done you wrong or the feeling or situation that has led to this moment. Forgiveness is a strength we all posses but few know how to truly harness. Forgiving is something you can learn and master. No one can tell you how to do it, but if you want to learn, all you have to do is try. It looks different for everyone, but the end result is the same.
Forgiveness allows you to release the burden and clear your “cache”. Your mind is now free to let go of the negativity that held your thoughts prisoner and breathe in new thoughts and ideas. When you free your mind of the junk and let “stuff” go, the reward is peace. The process may seem simple, but the task is hard.
Validate. Forgive. Release….. Peace.
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