Finding and keeping your balance means existing with a connection between your heart and your mind. When what you desire and what you consciously believe are in harmony, you have peace. Balance is a fickle, tricky ongoing orchestra of moving parts and effort. Having balance leads to being happy. Happiness is having a sense of wholeness, that all your parts have enough attention and love. Like mothering multiple children, all of your many parts need attention and kindness in different ways. Each part needs and deserves your undivided, mindful attention and energy to attend to it’s needs of the moment. But in this busy life, it’s hard to find the time to focus on ourselves let alone separate that time out into finding time to attend to each part of ourselves. So, balance often remains elusive, but with some reflection you can achieve congruence in heart and mind.
The more you have piled on your shoulders, the harder it is to achieve balance. Whether weighed down by obligation or caught up in unfounded theories behind why life has handed you certain challenges, a good way to regain balance is to begin by figuratively and literally putting it all down to consider what you need. Imagine an overly cluttered room. In your mind, remove every bit of furniture, artwork, clutter, anything in that room to get down to a bare space where you can begin again. Mindfully refurnish that room with only the things that you need and desire. How did that room feel before? How does it feel now? Which room would you rather live in?
Finding balance may be easiest when you don’t try so hard. I struggled and stretched inside my box and felt trapped and limited, but when I unplugged and left it all behind for a while I took some meaningful steps farther down my path. A few recent getaways did the trick. I took some “me time”. Now that I’m back from my version of Eat, Pray, Love (blog post coming soon) I feel recharged and ready to step back into my daily routine with renewed vigor and enthusiasm. Everyone needs a break from their worries and in coming back to life with a clear head we are better able to find our balance.
After taking some time to separate out and care for my parts that needed attention I feel better. When I let go and let life flow I realize how much unfounded theory I attach to many of my thoughts. When I unplugged from my routine, my mind was more willing to loosen it’s grasp on those stressful patterns and simply see and accept things for what they truly are. Instead of living with disharmony, I am able to feel the ease and lightness of a bit more peace.
I put a lot of effort into moving through life more effortlessly…. I see the irony now. I need to loosen my grip even on that. Feeling more peace is so much different than searching for it. There is a significant shift from swimming vigorously upstream to letting yourself float quietly downstream. The universe still embodies the same flow whether I fight against it or not.
photo above is of my new friend Ken, the frog of karma and zen