Taming The Beast

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The moment I asked to receive gentler messages is the moment the nightmares stopped. I sat up in bed one night a few years ago after another horrible scene passed through my head and demanded that there must be a more gentle way for my subconscious to relay these messages to me as I sleep. The nightmares lived in my head for years, scary images and intimidating possibilities ran wild while I slept. I was sick and tired of feeling overtaken by these cloudy ideas that would linger in my consciousness. I became angry. There was no other choice, I needed the nightmares to stop. Whether it was my inner being that took serious notice and finally internalized that message or a universal energy or entity that heard my plea is not important. I had enough of that feeling of terror and sadness in the middle of the night and I needed it to stop.

And it did. I haven’t had a nightmare since that night.   

That was when I realized how much power I had over my body and mind. That was when I knew I could make significant change all on my own. When you play the victim you attract attackers, but when you stand up straight and strong, aware and capable, the attackers move along to find a more willing victim. I chose to stand strong. As I tell my children now when they are afraid, “any monster that would come into this house should be far more afraid of me than I would ever be of it”. And I don’t just say it, I believe it wholeheartedly.

It only takes a person to recognize their own power to be able to achieve this kind of shift, this kind of life changing revelation. It’s something that you may have to reiterate to your heart and soul each day like a mantra, but the power and ability is within you to not only ask for kinder, gentler messages but also to receive them. You create the framework within your head, no one else can control what happens in that space. You are responsible for every thought, excuse, missed opportunity or achievement because it was born inside your own mind. Taking the reigns and learning to tame the animal within you is one of life’s major struggles. When you recognize that the animal inside CAN be tamed, the journey becomes more about what you put out into the world and less about all of the things holding you down and keeping you from moving forward. When you recognize the power of the body and mind you have been given and use those powers wisely, you discover that you are, in fact, a superhero.   

After Max visited the land of the Wild Things and deconstructed the myth of monsters and reframed how we live inside our own rooms, fears and families, we see that everyone has hopes and fears and everyone has the beast within who tries to control how we frame our surroundings and our lives. But, when you open your eyes to the possibility that we have complete control over how we manage those beasts and how we teach our children to manage their own beasts, we see that the monsters are within us to make us stronger, more human and more fierce than we ever thought possible. Once you figure out the science behind harnessing strength, change happens. 

So “let the wild rumpus start” (Maurice Sendak) and begin to tame and understand your beast within. Let the power of monsters give you strength to fight for a wonderful life, not keep you in chains from the beauty and peace that you deserve.

If you want the nightmares to stop, just ask. 

gratitude and photo credit to http://wallpoper.com/ for the above photo from the movie Where The Wild Things Are based on the amazing and empowering children’s book written by Maurice Sendak

The Brightest Side

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It’s not about someone else discovering you, it’s about you discovering yourself. It’s not about getting noticed, it’s about noticing. The world starts to feel different when you let go of stressors that don’t serve you like judgement, obligation and guilt. You don’t just start to see the brighter side of things when you make the decision to be genuinely happier, you see the brightest side. It’s a truly conscious decision that you have to make over and over consistently, and with absolute confidence. Being decisively committed to your own happiness allows your inner light to shine. 

I made an authentic decision to create positive change in my life. After years of hard work, growth, discovery and deep reflection, I feel confidently optimistic about the path I have put myself on. I knew that in order to build a life filled with things that make me happy, I had to first dismantle my existing life to the point where I felt lighter and better able to become who I wanted to discover. So, I sold my house and most of my belongings and moved to a place that I had always wanted to live, Colorado.

It was a complicated couple months as we sorted through belongings deciding what had value, served a purpose or felt sentimental. We held an estate sale, garage sale and sold several items online. In the end, we were left with the essentials and packed our lives into a 16 foot rental truck.

It’s been 2 weeks since I became a resident of Colorado. I’m not sure if it’s the crisp mountain air, the light refreshing afternoon rains, or the new zen patio I set up the minute I got the keys to my new place, but I’ve never felt so calm and peaceful. The easygoing lifestyle combined with the welcoming, friendly people have made me feel very at home. With a lighter schedule and beautiful sunny weather, my girls and I have been able to spend long summer days exploring our new home and surroundings. We’ve been enjoying each other in a whole new way. My girls and I have truly savored this gift of time with each other and I know they are appreciating their more relaxed and happy mom.

Instead of struggling through stressful, less-than-ideal days and feeling stagnant in my life, I decided to take a leap of faith and look on the brightest side, and I’m so glad that I did. 

“Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself” – George Bernard Shaw

gratitude to koan for the beatiful photo above from morguefile.com

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